Despite the name of the title, this is not going to be a guide on how to become a more patient person. Despite the fact that I have always been a patient person, I know it has inherent downsides and there is definitely such a thing as being too patient.
However there is a reason that they say patience is a virtue, and in our fast pace society, there is more reason than ever to be patient, the catch is that you must know the right things to be patient in...
There is a concept known as being Impatiently Patient, instead of Patiently Impatient- it is literally the difference between being a quitter and being successful.
First lets talk about being patiently impatient. These are like the new years eve resolution gym people, they decide that they finally need to hit the gym, most likely after months or years of being inactive (patient) and they finally take action and sign up for a gym membership. They typically last for 2 weeks before they end up returning to their old routine (impatient).
The opposite, impatient-patient, is the person who is quick to take action and once they begin, they are patient to get their results. These people are not perfectionists and they aren't after a magic pill solution. Part of this mindset is knowing what things do not deserve your patience, of which I would classify things like waiting in line at Starbucks for 10 minutes, being around toxic people, etc.
I was not always this way, in fact it is something I still struggle with from time to time. For example, when I was a teenager I would play guitar for hours and hours every day, but I always felt like I started too late (at 16), and as a result I ended up quitting too early. Now obviously if I had stuck with playing guitar now, over 10 years of playing for 5-7 hours a day, I would be pretty damn good by now. I had the same mindset when I started working out, learning about business, sales, marketing, learning languages, learning instruments, investing, you name it. It is one of those things that I wish someone had told me when I was a little kid and kept telling me until I understood it.
The point here is that you need to think long term about what you want, and you should never be put off by something that will give you a result in 5-7 years from now, because the truth is this... That time is going to pass by anyway, and it is going to pass by quick.
As a rule, humans do not think about their future selves, it is painful and subconsciously reminds us of our own mortality. Because of this fact we suffer. We will always put off future gain for present pleasure, and the few people who actually can do the opposite are the ones who enjoy enormous success.
It is such a rare trait to think like an investor in terms of your health, bank account, hard skills, and relationships that it almost seems like a superhuman ability. We idolize these people.
So think about where you want to be in 5 years or 10 years from now, literally think about every part of your life. It is helpful to think of your business/career in short term, middle term, and long term chunks. I tend to start with the long term goals and then work backwards in my head as to what skills I will need to start developing now in order to get there.
One of my goals is to become a top direct response copywriter, this is one of my long term goals (5-7 years), I have no problem with that because I have a slight obsession with direct response marketing and copywriting in general, and I know that it is highly lucrative as well. Knowing that I want to be a top direct response copywriter, I ask myself how can I start right now on a path that will lead me there? Well start reading, writing, and approaching companies to help them with their ads, sales funnels, sales letters, all of that good stuff. That is short term, in the mid term(1-3 years) I know I want to be doing it on a freelance basis while traveling the world and using it for my own businesses(preferably living in Sweden, hence why I'm also learning Swedish ;). I suggest you take the same approach with your goals.
The main takeaway here is that every goal is very doable if you can reverse engineer exactly how to get there, start immediately towards it, and have the patience to follow through.
Until next time,
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